Managing Emotional Overwhelm: A Postpartum Guide

Posted 09 Jun 2024


The arrival of a new baby brings immense joy and love, and it also ushers in a period of significant emotional changes. Many new mothers can experience feelings of emotional overwhelm during the postpartum period also known as the 4th trimester, the time following childbirth. This guide aims to support you to navigate these feelings and offers practical strategies that can help you move through them. By addressing emotional overwhelm, new mothers can better care for themselves and their babies, fostering a healthier and happier postpartum experience.

Understanding Postpartum Emotional Changes

After childbirth, a woman’s body undergoes significant hormonal shifts, leading to various emotional shifts. Commonly, new mothers experience what is known as the “baby blues,” characterised by feelings of sadness, anxiety, and mood swings. This is a normal experience and typically lasts for a few weeks.

However, it’s crucial to differentiate between baby blues and postpartum depression. Postpartum depression is more intense and persists longer. It involves severe mood swings, deep sadness, and a persistent sense of hopelessness. Recognising these differences is essential and it is essential to seek appropriate help and know help is available.

Dr. Oscar Serrallach, an integrative physician specialising in postpartum care, introduces the concept of “postnatal depletion.” This term is defined as a collection of symptoms describing a mother’s experience due to nutrient deficiencies, sleep deprivation, drastic change of a new mother’s role, and social isolation. Symptoms of postnatal depletion can include fatigue, brain fog, and emotional overwhelm, emphasising the need for adequate support and recovery time.

Identifying Emotional Overwhelm

Recognising emotional overwhelm is the first step in moving through it. Common signs can include feeling consistently anxious, overwhelmed, or excessively tired. You might find yourself crying more often than usual or feeling irritable and angry without a clear reason. Some mothers also experience difficulty sleeping, even when the baby is asleep, and may struggle to bond with their baby.

Hearing stories from other mothers who have faced similar challenges can also be helpful. For instance, one mother might share how she felt completely exhausted and anxious but found relief through talking to a professional. Knowing that these feelings are common and that help is available can be reassuring.

If you notice persistent feelings of sadness or a lack of interest in things you used to enjoy, it’s important to seek professional help immediately.

Practical Coping Strategies

Taking care of yourself is crucial. Self-care can include simple activities such as getting enough rest, eating nutritious food, engaging in activity you love, journalling and engaging in light exercise. These practices can significantly impact your emotional well-being.

Dr. Serrallach emphasises the importance of nutritional support during the postpartum period. He suggests that new mothers should focus on nutrient-dense foods to help replenish the body and support recovery.

Mindfulness and relaxation techniques are also beneficial. Practices like meditation, deep breathing exercises, and yoga can help calm your mind reduce anxiety and regulate your nervous systems. Setting aside just a few minutes each day for these activities can make a big difference.

Effective time management can help balance baby care with personal time. Creating a daily schedule that includes breaks for yourself can prevent feelings of overwhelm and give you something practical to follow. Sometimes its impossible to follow things to a T but having a guide can help you feel like you have structure to your day. Don’t hesitate to ask for help with baby care from family or friends to get some important personal time.

Building a Support Network

Support systems play a crucial role in coping with emotional overwhelm. Sharing your feelings with safe family members, friends, and professionals can provide comfort and understanding. Joining a support group, either online or in person, can also offer a sense of community and shared experiences.

A strong support network can make a significant difference in your postpartum experience. Don’t be afraid to communicate your needs to family and friends. Let them know how they can help, whether it’s by preparing meals, helping with housework, or simply being there to listen.

Connecting with like-minded people is crucial. Joining local support groups or connecting with other new mothers in your community can provide a sense of connection and shared understanding. Sharing experiences with others who are going through similar challenges helps normalise your feelings and reduces the sense of isolation that many new mothers feel.

Professional support is incredibly valuable. Healthcare providers, therapists, postpartum doulas, naturopaths and Matrescence coaches are trained to help new mothers through this challenging time. They can provide emotional support, practical advice, and medical care if needed.

Community support is essential. Engaging with your local community, whether through organised groups or informal gatherings, can offer much-needed support and resources. The presence of a supportive community can significantly enhance your postpartum experience, ensuring you have people to lean on during difficult times.

By building a robust support network, you create a foundation of emotional and practical support that can help you navigate the postpartum period more smoothly. Remember, reaching out for help and connecting with others is a sign of strength and an essential part of your postpartum journey.

Addressing Specific Emotional Challenges

Postpartum Anxiety

Postpartum anxiety can be particularly distressing. This type of anxiety often involves excessive worry about the baby’s health and well-being, feelings of panic, and difficulty relaxing. Techniques to manage anxiety can  include practicing mindfulness and engaging in physical activity. Mindfulness practices, such as meditation and deep nasal breathing exercises, journalling, can help calm the nervous system and provide a sense of control. Physical activities like walking or gentle yoga can also reduce anxiety by releasing endorphins and improving overall mood.

Another effective strategy is self-soothing, which involves finding activities that bring comfort and relaxation. This might include listening to calming music, taking a warm bath, or spending time in nature. It’s also helpful to talk about your worries with a trusted professional. Sharing your feelings can provide relief and perspective, helping to reduce the intensity of anxiety.

It’s essential to remember that experiencing anxiety is common during the postpartum period, and seeking help is important. By reaching out to supportive individuals or healthcare professionals, you can receive the assistance and guidance needed to manage your anxiety effectively.

Feelings of Sadness

Feelings of sadness can be common during the postpartum period. These emotions can be triggered by hormonal changes, physical exhaustion, and the overwhelming responsibility of caring for a newborn. To help you to honour and move through these feelings, engage in activities you enjoy, even if it’s just for a short time each day. Doing something pleasurable can lift your mood and provide a much-needed break from the demands of motherhood.

Connecting with others is also crucial. Social interactions, whether through support groups or social activities, can provide emotional support and reduce feelings of isolation and help fill your cup. Building a community of understanding and empathetic individuals can make a significant difference in your emotional well-being.

Remember, experiencing feelings of sadness does not mean that something is inherently wrong with you. It’s essential to seek help if these feelings persist or interfere with your daily life. Professionals, such as therapists or counsellors, can offer support and guidance to help you navigate this challenging time.

Anger and Irritability

Anger and irritability are normal postpartum emotions but can be challenging to manage. These feelings often arise from sleep deprivation, hormonal fluctuations, and the stress of adjusting to a new routine. It’s important to understand that these emotions are a natural response to the significant changes and pressures of motherhood.

To manage anger and irritability, start by identifying your triggers. Common triggers might include lack of sleep, feeling unsupported, or the baby’s crying. When you can recognise what sets off your anger, you can begin to start to  address these issues directly. For example, if sleep deprivation is a trigger, try to rest whenever possible, even if it means asking for more help from family or friends.

Finding healthy ways to express your feelings is essential. Talking with a friend or writing in a journal can provide an outlet for your emotions, helping to release pent-up frustration. Physical activities, such as taking a walk or doing light exercise, can also help dissipate anger and improve your mood.

It’s crucial to normalise these feelings of anger and irritability, emphasising that many new mothers experience them. However, seeking help is vital if these emotions become overwhelming or start to affect your relationships and daily functioning. Professionals can provide strategies to manage these feelings effectively and improve your overall well-being.

mother with her baby during postpartum

Long-Term Emotional Well-being

For long-term emotional wellbeing its important to establishing a routine that can provide stability and make daily tasks more manageable. Creating a schedule that includes time for both baby care and personal activities helps maintain balance.

Continuing self-care practices in the long term is crucial. Regular exercise, healthy eating, and sufficient rest need to remain a priority. These habits support overall well-being and resilience.

Maintaining strong healthy relationships with your partner, family, and friends is essential. Make time to connect with loved ones, share your experiences, and support each other. This network can provide ongoing emotional support.


In summary, understanding and moving through  emotional overwhelm during the postpartum period is essential for both your well-being and your baby’s. By recognising the signs, practicing self-care, and building a support network, you can navigate this challenging time with more ease, kindness and grace. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and many resources are available to support you. This guide can be a valuable tool for ongoing support and encouragement.

Additional Resources

The Fourth Trimester :A Postpartum Guide to Healing Your Body, Balancing Your Emotions, and Restoring Your Vitality By: Kimberly Ann Johnson

The Postnatal Depletion Cure
A complete guide to rebuilding your health and reclaiming your energy, for mothers of newborns, toddlers and young children
By: Dr Oscar Serrallach

Seeking immediate support for perinatal anxiety or depression?

iple Zero (000) – If you or someone you care about is in crisis and you think that immediate help is needed, call triple zero (000) or go to your local hospital emergency department.

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