Posted 30 Jan 2023
Matrescence, the rite of passage into motherhood, can be a challenging and overwhelming as well as rewarding and exciting experience for new mothers. This is why it is essential for new mothers to have a supportive community during this time.
It is a time of great change, discovery and transformation, both physically ,emotionally, socially and spiritually which can be difficult for new mothers to navigate on their own. The nature of a rite passage whether that be adolescence, motherhood or beyond requires the support, encouragement and acceptance of our tribe/community to feel supported and guided into our new role, responsibilities and being.
One of the most important aspects of community during Matrescence is the support, connection , belonging and validation that it provides.
New mothers often feel isolated and alone in their experiences as they transition from the old to the new and it can be comforting to know that others have gone through similar experiences and rites of passage. Having a community to share and normalise our experiences can help to alleviate feelings of isolation and provide a sense of understanding, connection and belonging.
A community can also provide new mothers with practical support as she heals, processes and sinks into her new sense of being.
It really does take a village to raise a child and more importantly support a mother. This can be particularly important for mothers who are recovering from childbirth or who have other children to care for. Having a community to support and call upon can give space for mothers to spend time focusing on their own and their baby’s needs, their own healing, bonding with their baby and integration.
Another benefit of community during Matrescence is the opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery.
Becoming a mother is a time of great personal growth, and having a community to share this experience with can be incredibly empowering. A community can provide new mothers with the opportunity to learn from other mothers and gain a greater understanding of themselves and their experiences as well as have a safe space to share their experiences.
Furthermore, having a community can also help new mothers to navigate the emotional changes that come with Matrescence.
Polarising emotions such as anxiety, fear, sadness, grief, uncertainty, joy, happiness, contentment, courage, and empowerment are all normal during this time, and it can be confusing for new mothers to know what is happening within her . A supportive community can provide new mothers with the emotional support they need to explore these feelings, and can help them to find effective strategies and insights.
Another important aspect of community during Matrescence is the sharing of knowledge and information.
Where as back in tribes where women were consistently exposed to pregnancy birth and motherhood, where as now the birth of her first child may be the first time she has been exposed to birth and motherhood. Having a community to turn to for advice and information can be incredibly helpful, and can provide new mothers with the confidence they need to navigate the challenges of motherhood. This can be especially helpful for first-time mothers who may not have any experience with babies. When turning for advice it is important to discern where this information is coming from and surround yourself with a community that shares positive experiences, aligns with your values and holds space for kindness and compassion for the difficult times.
Also, community is a great opportunity to empower another woman through her Matrescence experience.
New mothers can also be a source of support for others, and it can be incredibly rewarding and empowering to be able to help another mother who is going through the same challenges as you. This can also help to strengthen the community and create a sense of mutual support and understanding.
There are various ways to find a supportive community during Matrescence.
Many new mothers find support through online communities, such as mothering forums or Facebook groups. There are also in-person support groups, such as mother’s groups, women’s circles, which can provide new mothers with the opportunity to connect with other mothers in person. There are also post-natal Doulas, Matrescence and Pregnancy coaches, and Antenatal/Postnatal Psychologists available to support women who are wanting more 1:1 in-depth support.
Remember, there is no one size fits all approach and explore many different forms of support and community until you find one that aligns with you and you feel at home.
In conclusion, community is essential for new mothers during Matrescence. It provides support, connecting , belonging, validation, practical support,, and opportunities for personal growth and self-discovery. Having a supportive community can also help new mothers to navigate the gamut of emotional changes that come with Matrescence. It’s important to seek out and join a community that aligns with your values, and that makes you feel understood, supported and validated. Remember, you are not alone, and the rite of passage of Matrescence affects all of us and there are many out there who are willing to support you with open arms and heart.
To learn more about the different ways you can receive support during Matrescence book in your complimentary Matrescence Journey Session here